Calling Out Sexism in Comedy Spaces: How to Stand Up Without Backing Down

Comedy has always been a space for challenging norms and speaking truth to power. But let’s be honest—comedy spaces are not immune to sexism. For many comedians, especially women, non-binary folks, and LGBTQ+ performers, dealing with sexist jokes, dismissive attitudes, or inappropriate comments is, unfortunately, part of the experience. Calling out sexism in these spaces can feel intimidating, especially if the person making the joke or comment is an established comedian or industry professional.

So, how do you stand up against sexism in comedy spaces without getting shut down or dismissed? Here’s a guide to navigating these moments with confidence, clarity, and a commitment to making comedy better for everyone.

1. Start by Assessing the Context

Before calling out sexism, take a moment to assess the context. Are you on stage, in a green room, or talking one-on-one? Are others witnessing this behavior, or is it happening in a private conversation? The way you address sexism may vary depending on the setting.

For instance, if you’re on stage and another comedian makes a sexist joke in the context of a show, you might choose to respond directly with humor or a witty comeback that flips the joke. In a more private setting, a straightforward conversation might be more effective. Assessing the context can help you decide on the best approach to addressing the situation.

2. Use Humor to Flip the Script

Comedy is your superpower, so use it! If a comedian makes a sexist joke or comment, flipping the script with humor is a great way to call it out without being confrontational. A quick, clever comeback can expose the sexism for what it is while keeping the energy light.

For example, if a comedian makes a joke about women not being “funny enough,” you might respond with something like, “Ah, I see, it’s 1985 again. What’s next, you gonna tell me women can’t parallel park?” This kind of humor gently mocks the outdated attitude and turns the attention back on the person making the sexist comment, making it clear that these views are tired and uninspired.

3. Speak Up in the Moment if You’re Comfortable

Sometimes, calling out sexism in the moment is the most effective approach. If you feel safe and comfortable, a direct statement like, “Hey, that joke feels outdated and kind of sexist,” can be powerful. Short and straightforward, this type of call-out lets the person know where you stand without causing a big scene.

By calmly addressing the issue as it happens, you’re setting a boundary and showing that sexism isn’t acceptable in your presence. Often, people don’t realize how inappropriate something sounds until it’s pointed out. Speaking up in the moment can be a gentle reminder that certain attitudes don’t belong in a progressive comedy space.

4. Make It a Group Effort: Support Other Voices Calling Out Sexism

It’s easier to challenge sexism when you’re not doing it alone. In comedy spaces, sexism can often go unchecked because people feel isolated or afraid to speak up. If you’re in a group and someone else calls out a sexist remark, support them. A quick “Totally agree,” or “Yeah, that was out of line,” shows that you’re backing them up and makes it harder for the person to brush off the criticism.

When comedians collectively support each other, it becomes much easier to call out toxic behavior and create a culture where everyone feels respected. Solidarity goes a long way, and by sticking together, you’re making comedy a safer and more inclusive space for everyone.

5. Bring Up Sexism Offstage: Have Honest Conversations

If you notice a pattern of sexist behavior from a fellow comedian or entertainment professional, consider bringing it up offstage in a one-on-one setting. Sometimes, people are more receptive to feedback when it’s given privately. Be direct but respectful, using “I” statements to focus on how the behavior affects you rather than making accusations.

For example, “I’ve noticed some jokes about women that seem outdated, and I feel like they don’t align with the values we’re working toward in the comedy community. Maybe we can think about different ways to approach that?” This approach can lead to constructive conversation and reflection, especially if the person wasn’t fully aware of the impact of their words.

6. Turn It into a Teaching Moment When Appropriate

If you’re in a space where teaching feels appropriate, use humor to educate rather than criticize. For example, if someone makes a joke based on a sexist stereotype, you could say something like, “I’d explain why that’s problematic, but then I’d have to bill you for the workshop.” It’s a humorous way to signal that their humor is outdated without getting into a long-winded discussion.

Sometimes, calling out sexism is as simple as pointing out that certain ideas are no longer acceptable. A lighthearted nudge can encourage people to reflect on their material without feeling defensive, making it easier for them to evolve as comedians.

7. Set Boundaries with People Who Aren’t Receptive

There will be times when, no matter how you approach the situation, the person simply won’t hear you. In these cases, it’s okay to set boundaries. Let them know that sexist jokes or attitudes don’t align with your values, and that you’d prefer not to engage with that kind of material.

For instance, you might say, “I’m not really comfortable with those kinds of jokes—they don’t feel like they’re adding to the show.” This boundary is respectful and firm, and it signals that you’re not willing to compromise your values just to fit in. Comedy is about pushing boundaries, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept toxicity as part of the process.

8. Redirect the Conversation Back to What Comedy is About: Connection and Inclusivity

Remind people that comedy is about connecting with the audience and pushing forward, not pulling anyone down. A simple comment like, “Comedy’s way better when we’re lifting each other up, right?” can reframe the conversation and bring the focus back to inclusivity.

When comedians prioritize inclusivity, they connect with broader audiences and create more meaningful work. Framing comedy as an inclusive space is a gentle way to shift focus away from outdated attitudes and toward humor that celebrates everyone.

9. Find Allies and Build Supportive Networks

Finally, surround yourself with people who share your values. Find allies—other comedians, entertainment professionals, and friends—who are committed to creating inclusive spaces. Building a network of supportive people gives you the strength to stand up against sexism and helps you create the kind of environment where everyone feels safe and respected.

In comedy, it’s easy to feel isolated, but finding a community of allies reminds you that you’re not alone in the fight for positive change. When you support each other, you’re creating a foundation for a more respectful, inclusive comedy scene.

Final Thoughts: Changing Comedy One Call-Out at a Time

Calling out sexism in comedy spaces isn’t easy, but it’s an essential step in creating a more inclusive, equitable environment. When we challenge outdated attitudes, we’re not just improving our own experience—we’re also making comedy more accessible and enjoyable for future performers and audiences. It’s about protecting the spirit of comedy, where laughter unites rather than divides.

For more insights on navigating comedy spaces and creating a more inclusive entertainment industry, follow along on Instagram @RenQComedy. Let’s keep pushing boundaries, lifting each other up, and making comedy a space where everyone belongs.